The Fertile Male Part 2: The Contrast between Fertile sexuality and Porn Sexuality

These are the differences between being really horny after a week of no porn & no masturbation:

Fertile Sexuality: Enjoying the feeling of being horny
Porn Sexuality: Searching for something better, disappointment, wishing you could get that type in real life

Fertile Sexuality: Women are partners to share your sexuality with.
Porn Sexuality: Women become objects to to aquired/won/etc.

Fertile Sexuality: IRL more open about who you find attractive with other
men or people in general.
Porn Sexuality: Threatened by other men IRL, by their sexuality,
by girls who might chose them instead, or just competition.

Fertile Sexuality: Abundance of sperm therefore more confident in self
Porn Sexuality:  It’s like, you have minimal sperm therefore you must
make it count? Iunno, or like you are not valuable?

Fertile Sexuality: You get into that sexual state and you notice the innate
sexuality of other women and you see sex as something good. You see it
as mutually beneficial.

Porn Sexuality: You see women as fragile and something you need to be
committed to. You see sex as something you are taking from them and
have little to offer in return. It is a big responsibility and a risk
of everything from embarrassment to iunno, psychological damage
to her and or yourself.

Note, these are based on how I feel and I am a pretty sensitive person and
keep the well being of others in mind. someone less sensitive, less empathetic,
less focused on the well being of others maybe just accept the porn
sexuality and still have sex but it just be a damaging version of sexuality.

So here are more ideas for becoming more in-tune with ones own sexuality:

Make sure to state that sexual pleasure but focused on yourself as a sexual being, not fantasizing, is important. Fantasizing or watching porn(the worse version of this) directs energy towards something that is not returning that energy to you. Also it’s a totally different method of pleasure, visual stimuli versus feeling sexual energy.

Visual on it’s own, without a real person behind it, is more of a drain. It’s looking at something with longing but not really having it. Feeling your own sexual energy, means not being in that state of NEED, but instead filling up from the inside. Just like with other forms of happiness, you can find shit you like, or just shit other people would like you to like.

Filling up on your own energy allows you to have and feel like you have, something to offer sexually, which you do as you become more fertile. You worship your own fertility and then you attract someone who compliments you. Naturally people with more rational mindsets or lower sex drives or sensitive dopamine systems etc not sure which, may gravitate towards holding in orgasms to prolonge pressure. This is a natural use of delayed gratification. I think possibly more natural that ejaculating at least for me, as I only masterbated to orgasm after reading it was possible from a book. lol.

Anyways, higher sex drive males may just jerk off more, and with less prolonging, so I guess that is how things even out as far as attraction goes. When you allow yourself to feel the sexual pleasure and energy that is yours you being more connected to you sexuality. It’s just like with inspiration based activities versus doing it for some external gain or just because you love it.
So sex based on the way someone else looks is like working for money where as sex based on how it feels, the raw sexual energy, is working out of inspiration.

I mean sure if the money and the gratitude of others comes then that’s even better. However, if you are ONLY doing it for that reason, then it’s not the same. Same with sex. If you get that attractive girl and she has amazing orgasms then that is icing on the cake, but you should appreciate your sexual energy even without that other stuff. Sexual energy is a gift. It’s opportunity, and abundance. So it is worth cultivating for it’s own sake because, well because it feels good.

Also, to say you are not horny all the time and so have a low sex drive and that’s just who you are is maybe to a full argument. I kind of feel like, if you wish you had a higher sex drive, and enjoy it when you do, then you have a high sex drive, and should find ways to bring the energy up to what you would rather it be.

That’s kind of like my argument for using maca or anything else for the purpose of increases sex drive.
Here is another argument as well though. The fact that usually like for something like maca, the sex drive comes with a general feeling of well being. So if someone where to say, “if you aren’t horny don’t force it or you aren’t being authentic” well I would say, being horny if it’s just a part of well-being, should be forced lol.

I feel like authentic is whatever is done out of love and is not subject to biological innateness. What I mean is, just because you were born feeling a certain way doesn’t mean you should accept and remain feeling that way in the face of ways of feeling
that you would rather have.

If I use maca I will just consider myself ahead of the curve.
Why bother sticking to what is natural, in fear that you will lose
the sense of who you really are. Why no focus on trying to be a better
version of yourself no matter how you have to do that.

I guess there is also that feeling of impermanence, but what does that
matter. the knowledge of the thing that can improve you, and the decision
to keep using it, these things are permanent.

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The Fertile Male Part 1: Correlation between sperm production and attractiveness

There is a big diff between the nofap protocol and just iunno, being high l-tyrosine

For one, nofap is almost sleep/diet and workout independent.
It’s like it taps into this innate drive. Also and a very important point is the level of attractiveness you have to others. Nofap increases this while high tyrosine maybe does nothing.

It seems nofap is about relief.

Relief from the incessant urge, via ignoring it
relief from the 2am surfing
relief from checking out people who are not interested

however, it is relief and a positive thing, only for as long
as the urge exists. Once it doesn’t, the lack of urge becomes
the thing we want relief from.

Hence the 6-7 day cycle which as well brings relief from the
urge on the last day as well as relief from the impending loss
of drive.

Ah I just thought of something. Here is where I start to make my point.

I was wondering, why such a big deal with the
getting horny and more attractive but only until
7 days and then it going away? why would biology do
that?

Well I thought, what other areas of human physiology work
this way? One is cardiovascular activity, or just general
moderate-intense exercise. After 45 min it becomes counter
productive.

So the same could be for somethngn like celibacy.
Why?
Well because semen would be produced up to a point (7 days)
making pregnancy more likely (attractiveness and horny)
but after that time it would become less likely after
a wet dream or semen died or full balls, etc.

It seems like the optimal reproductive strategy would be that
fertile males have sex with fertile females.
Monogomy which could easily be just one of the many symtoms of
“lockian or rousseuan society” could be to the detriment of
optimal reproduction.

Now I’m going to go off on a little tangent but don’t worry this isn’t my main point.

That is to say, if a women can only have sex with one man while
in her fertile period, it would decrease the probability of her
giving birth.

for example. A society of 30 men and 30 women, would see one or two
females ovulating per day but 4 or 5 men having gone without ejaculation
for 7 days. So optimal reproduction would mean each fertile women get’s
to be with around 2 men. 2 and a half men lol. one for each night of
ovulation, to give her the largest amount of semen they can.

Back to the main point.
So it would stand to reason that what a women is attracted to in a
man on nofap is THEIR fertility. Just has what a man is attracted to
in a women when she is ovulating is HERS.

SO it would stand to reason that we could create a practice to cultivate
maximum sperm production, just as we cultivate muscle mass, etc.

I wonder what else we can cultivate.

So it should be easy to see why a girl might be less into a guy who
approaches her for sex, but on a day when he is “empty”. I mean
obviously a guy can still be attractive and sex happens for reasons other
than procreation. However what if it’s that for ONS the vibe would be
more of a procreation vibe where as for a longer term thing the vibe
would be sex because you actually like the person.

Now a thought i was thinking that has nothing to do with sex.
Also the test I did for special ed that had me memorize disjointed
items and try to regurgitate them, I would say is not a true
test of learning ability. I mean, it is one form of learning.
However, to say not being as strong in it could be seen as an obstacle
is probably not a very good way to do it. Especially since most higher
level learning is based on systems thinking, the exact opposite of memorizing
disjointed facts.

Anyways, so it would be interesting to research ways to increase fertility
in males. I know testosterone is one way, but I feel like that is just one
factor and maybe not even a factor as apparently testosterone increases after
ejaculation. Well this COULD be as a way of starting up semen production
again. However, starting it up is not what is attractive to females. What
is attractive is having a lot of it and the signal that body language
and attitude convey when that is the case.

So I wonder if anything could increase semen volume without relying on
max testosterone, because you can only do so much where testosterone is
concerned. Unless I start taking supplements for testosterone, which I could
do actually but I feel like would be too much too soon.

I was going to save this for another post but I think it fits in better here so
here are some way’s I’ve thought of to increase sperm production based
on research etc:

Besides supplements for increasing testosterone which are many such as Maca, ashwanganda, etc,
Light therapy (get a lamp that gives 10000 lux light and sit infront of it. Or get lot’s of
sun light. These both help the body prudice FSH and LH which help produce testosterone
and sperm I think.

Next, “edging”, that is, getting yourself worked up through masterbation bu
not orgasming. This is so obvious because what happens when you do this too much? You
get blue balls which is basically balls too full with sperm. However, I notice I haven’t been
getting this lately, i only really got it hen making out with a girlfriend many years ago. However,
during that time I was horny everyday and was doing nofap, before nofap was even a thing.

Now, I’ll stop things here because this idea of edging leads to my next post which will
be on the contrat between the sexual state and the non-sexual state from a very philosophicaland I guess holistic perspective.

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